Moral decadence Amongst Youth of Sarkin Dawaki and Majidadi Wards, Jalingo LGA: Who is to Blame? ~Abdoulrasheed Tapheeda

The moral decadence in our society has reached level that calls for concern. It is of no doubt that social vices have completely replaced core moral values in present times. This ravaging phenomenon is the cause of some of the major problems Sarkin Dawaki and Majidadi Wards, Jalingo LGA are facing. A society where the young ones and leaders of tomorrow no longer think of how tomorrow would be better than today or how to be instrumental to the development of his/her Society. But engage in all sorts of anti-social behavior, such as Stealing, Fighting With Dangerous Weapons, Terrorising and the worst part of is ‘Raping Young Girls.’

This societal menace is just too prevalent and has reduced the present youths to mediocrity. The Moral values that are found in our religion, culture and traditions are yet to be emble by youth.. They consider our indigenous culture and traditions as outdated and barbaric.

Now that the issue has reached an alarming rate and as it is the tradition in our dear people, whenever an issue arises, we point accusing fingers and play the blame game instead of brainstorming on how best to tackle the problem. Some blame the parents, some point accusing fingers at the media, while others believe it’s the youth who are responsible for their behavior or misbehavior. But the truth is; Whichever of them you think is responsible, you may be right and as well be wrong for the following reasons;

1. The Parents:
Parents are responsible for training their children and teaching them compassion,  respect as well as acceptable do’s and don’ts in line with societal values and religious dictates. As such, they become responsible for the action or inaction, behavior and attitudes of their children towards others from childhood to maturity. If a child behaves well, people conclude that the child is from a disciplined home and if they behave otherwise, people fault the parents for not properly training the child. You hear people complain “didn’t your parents teach you this?” or “didn’t your parents teach you that?” The unfortunate thing now is that, some parents abandon these responsibilities.

2. The Media:
The role of the media in society is to inform, educate, entertain and serve as the watch-dog of the society. But Unfortunately, it is no longer so. The entertainment industry for example through music videos, movies and some publications have successfully polluted the minds of the youth and promoted indecent dressing, Nudity is now directly proportional to your fame and acceptance, skimpy dresses are now tickets to ‘classy’ events, songs that have sexual talks in them sell faster than the meaningful ones, when your trousers is around your waist then you are seen as a “learner”, big girls are now identified by level of exposure of their private parts. Drinking alcohol and other  dangerous intoxicants, smoking, and jamborees  among others. Such youth model their lives in accordance with any of their favourite actors, actresses, musicians, models and the like. But they dress, talk, walk, and misbehave like their unworthy role models with the highest sense of justification and the worst of all dedicating their most productive stage of life to temporary fun. What a mistake.



3. The Youth:
Nowadays youth don’t pay heed to the advices of elders and have no respect for them. Some children are good liars and perfect pretenders. They act and behave like saints in the house and become demons the moment they step out of it. It is universally believed that once a child is 18 years of age, he or she can think and make decisions, discern between truth and false, right and wrong, good and bad and so on.
The time for blame game is over, and each and every one concerned should take up their responsibilities. Parents, no matter how busy you may be, find time to train your children to be the good children you want.

The media should be socially responsible to the society and promote morals and values found in our indigenous culture and traditions.

Whereas the youth need reorientation and these includes compassion, respect, tolerance and understanding.

Above all, it must be understood that training the youth is a collective responsibility of the members of the society. If you train only your children, my untrained children whom are friends and go to school, mosque or church, play and socialize together can spoil your trained children. By joining hands together we can achieve morally sound society that we can be proud to call home.
Abdoulrasheed Tapheeda, Students Taraba State University, Jalingo.
B.Sc. (HONS.) Mathematics


Simple Short Gracias Note To My Soul Mate; Raheema Ahmad Isah, By; Abdoulrasheed Tapheeda!

Dear Raheema Ahmed (Soul Mate).

As soon as I met you, I knew you that were something truly special. You were charming, kind, and charismatic, and I couldn’t help but be drawn to you. But, never in a million years would I have guessed that now, after all this time, you would mean so much to me.

The funny thing is, I wasn’t looking for you, I just found you. Out of funny circumstance and total coincidence, we became friends, and got to know each other’s personalities, fears, hopes, and dreams. Then, we blossomed into something beautiful, something that I never saw coming.

But as blind as I was, I’m extremely glad that you stumbled into my weird little life and that you became such a big part of it. There are so many wonderful things to thank you for that I don’t even know where to begin. Words will never do it justice.

Thank you for putting me in my place; because sometimes I actually might be acting a little too harsh about that one thing that I don’t like, even if I’ll never admit it. I always appreciate your honesty, even when it’s something that’s hard to hear.

Thank you for knowing how to handle me or at least for pretending like you know how to, and doing an excellent job of it. I know I’m not always the easiest person to deal with, but you settle me down and make me smile in a way that no one else can.

Thank you for always supporting me – You’re the best cheerleader/number one fan that I could ever ask for, and nothing is more reassuring than knowing that you’re right there to root for me in everything that I do.

Thank you for letting me have the last bite of today’s meal. It shows how selfless you truly are, and that’s an admirable and adorable. I try to protest, but secretly I love it, and it’s the sweetest thing in the world. Plus, who can say no to the last bite of chocolate cake, am I right?

Thank you for being silly- Some of my fondest memories with you involve weird faces, strange conversations, and pure craziness. We’ve even developed our own language of phrases and pet names. Yes, we may be weirdos, but I love that you never take things too seriously and you always know how to make me laugh.

Thank you for being serious- Despite our silliness, you know exactly when to put on the serious, caring, boyfriend pants and you have impeccable timing. You’ve been right by my side through some of the toughest experiences of my life, and you’ve never once faltered. I am incredibly grateful for your unconditional support and love, even in the face of difficulty.

Thank you for making me feel so happy and humbled- There are days that I just sit and look at you and wonder how I got so lucky. Sometimes I feel that I don’t deserve someone as wonderful as you, but you always reassure me that you’re the “reacher” in our relationship, even though I’ll never agree. I prefer to think that we deserve each other pretty equally.

The last but not the list, Thank you for loving me unconditionally. Indeed It’s easy to call you my Girlfriend. But, above all, I think you are much more than that. You’re my partner in crime, my confidant, and most importantly, my best friend.

Although I couldn’t see you coming, I am eternally grateful that you’re in my life today. Wherever the road takes us, I’m glad that I got to walk down that road with you, creating so many beautiful memories along the way.

Abdoulrasheed Tapheeda